July 19, 2016
The Mr. began the summer season with high hopes of having his left knee replaced. Yet, here we are in the middle of the summer season, July 10 and he is still hoping. He has been using a cane for some time now and that has helped, but is definitely not a cure-all solution for his problem.
Everywhere we go people ask about why he waited so long to decide that total knee replacement was necessary. Living with me has most likely had some bearing on how he viewed the surgery. Eight years ago I had my left knee replaced and after five years of constant pain was finally told by the doctors that I had a failed knee replacement surgery.
Often the elderly and infirmed are confronted with the notion that these are our ‘golden years’ as we hobble down the aisles of life. My response has been, “Seriously?” “I’m beginning to think it’s just Fool’s Gold.” And, when we head out for a doctor’s appointment many questions pop up in our minds: How’s the traffic today? Are there any detours? Can we easily find where to go for the appointment? Do we have all the ID information needed? What is the co-pay? Does the car have enough gas? You know how those little things that mean a lot keep going through your head.
The Mr.’s journey toward surgery hasn’t been easy. At his appointment with the surgeon on June 3, the surgery was scheduled for August 2. That seemed like an eternity away. But, he was told if there was a cancellation he would be first on the list to move into that spot. That call came on June 21 when he was told the surgery was being moved to June 30.
I’m sure his sigh of relief could be heard all over the entire state of Colorado. But, alas another call came telling him there was an emergency and his surgery was being moved back to the August 2 slot. How disappointed we both were. But then, another call came and his surgery was moved to July 5. This time we held our breath and sure enough, another call came to move that date to July 15. Oh, but then another call came the next day saying it wasn’t July 15, but rather July 14.
After all is said and done, we are holding onto the date of July 14 at 5:30 a.m. to be at the hospital in Denver for total knee replacement. This is his golden opportunity to get that knee repaired so he can get on with what he does best: being out in the community helping others with their issues such as obtaining senior housing for their golden years; finding transportation for those who need assistance with grocery shopping and/or doctor’s appointments, and serving as chair of the board for the Weld County Commission on Aging to find answers to other serious issues that face all who are having challenges in their golden years. I’m sure as involved in our community as he is, I’ll be challenged to keep up with him after he gets his new knee.
C.S. Lewis reminds us that, “You are never too old to set another goal or to dream another dream.” The Mr. and I both agree that our goal during these golden years is to stay true to ourselves; keep setting realistic goals; help others find answers; keep dreaming new dreams and loving each other. We will resist the notion that our golden years are only Fool’s Gold. For us they will remain 24K gold as long as we share them together.